Dear 18-year-old me,
I know you’ve just met a guy you really like, a guy who likes you too, and you want to put your focus solely on him, but you need to focus on college too. And you need to finish college before you get married and have children.
I know what you’re thinking, and no there will not always be time to finish. Now is the best time.
When you’re 21 you’ll become a mother.
When you’re 22 you’ll get married.
At 23 and 25 you have more children.
By 32, you’ve been divorced twice. You’ve tried to finish college for more than a dozen years, and you’re struggling. You have a very demanding, more than full-time, work schedule and you’re a single mom. You’re having a hard time trying to be everything and do everything.
On Tuesday, for instance, you had a poetry analysis on Walt Whitman’s epic “Song of Myself” to complete and your son had a nosebleed as soon as you sat down to start work on it. Oh, and it was after his bedtime, too.
And right now? Well, you have a literary criticism on Gulliver’s Travels due in about five hours and one of your children is sick and belligerent, one wants to show you the splits and a finger she thinks is sprained and the other needs help with homework. The psychological analysis of Gulliver’s survival instincts won’t write itself.
So, you see, there’s not always time. And when there is time things happen. It’s inevitable.
Plus, the kids you go to school with were born the year you graduated from high school and that makes you feel really old and out of place.
Get it done. Preferably before you have children, even though you wouldn’t ever, ever trade them. Your 32-year-old self will thank you.