Anyone else getting burnt out on Michael Jackson? Because I really, really am.
I’m sad for his family and his children, but I’m sick of the tributes already. I’m tired of Michael Jackson on the radio constantly. I’m annoyed with the celebrities speaking out (thanks, we already knew he was a musical genius/icon/legend and we already knew who has modeled their style after him (looking at you, Justin Timberlake)). And I’m also really struggling with the glorification of this human being, simply because he died unexpectedly and made great contributions to the world of music.
When people die, we tend to sanctify them. We remember the good times and quietly sweep the bad times, the bad habits, under the rug for another time. This is exactly what most of the world is doing with Michael Jackson, with Farrah Fawcett, with Ed McMahon and with Billy Mays.
The fact is, musical genius as he may have been, Michael Jackson was also a suspected sex offender.
Last night NBC aired a special called Living With Michael Jackson, which was a series of interviews conducted by British journalist Martin Brashear. I enjoyed it because Brashear asked the difficult questions, the ones he knew Michael wouldn’t likely answer (or answer truthfully), on topics ranging from the paternity (and maternity) of his children to having severe dermatological issues as a teenager to the ever-changing physical features.
As I watched it, I watched Michael lie about not having had plastic surgery (please!). I listened to him talk about his children, insisting he was their biological father (though apparently that’s not true, judging by the reports on this today) and insisting to Brashear that he would not mind if his children spent the night at someone’s house and slept in a bed with an adult (this was in response to the sexual abuse allegations); yet, earlier, Michael and the children took a trip to the zoo and he told Brashear that he refused to let anyone else take his children anywhere, because if something happened he wanted to be the one responsible for it (“I’d rather it be my fault,” is pretty close to what he said). Like, you know, dangling an infant over a balcony railing.
Don’t get me wrong, I loved the man’s music (always stop when I come to a song on the radio or iPod, even before he passed away), but these are exactly the reasons we need to bring the pandemonium down a notch or two. Icon that he may be, he also had some serious flaws that were not necessarily kept private. We, the public, need to keep this in mind.
When I die, please know I do not wish to be canonized.
While I do hope to be remembered for my good points, I’m honest enough with myself and others to recognize the fact that I am a deeply flawed person.
I’m messy and disorganized. I don’t often think things through. I hate math and I’m no good with financial matters. I’ve worked hard to be a good mother, but I’m not the best or perfect parent; I lose my temper too easily and I have little patience. I lack discipline. I talk too much. Sometimes I don’t know the right thing to say and end up putting my foot in my mouth. I don’t know when to keep my comments to myself sometimes, like when we were at the airport checking our suitcase and I pointed out that it weighed 52 pounds (you have to pay for anything over 50). I’m picky and opinionated. I hate doing laundry. I am deeply sentimental and thus a packrat. I have [unintentionally] broken TSA rules and carried a knife in my purse on a plane (funny story is, they stopped Shanee because she had baby food in her diaper bag and here I was with a 4-5 inch knife in my purse).
Sometimes I brag too much, but I’m proud of myself, my family and our collective accomplishments. I’m not good at keeping in touch with people, except on Facebook. I’m irritating. I talk on the phone too much. My opinions are not always mainstream. I’ve had a lot of automobile accidents. I got pregnant before I was married. I stayed with an abusive husband when I knew I should have moved on. Need I continue? (I’m sure my brothers could point out tons more.)
While no one wants to be remembered simply for their flaws, my bad traits are as much a part of me as my good traits. I’m far from joining the ranks of Mary, Matthew, Luke and John.
I’m a human, not a saint.
This is also what we need to remember about celebrities. Remember their achievements, but don’t forget what made them real.